Is There A Good Day For Getting Married In Islam?
Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions.
When determining a wedding day some people still believe that there are certain days which are good days to get married. For example, some believe that marriage during the months of Shawwal, Dhu al-Hijjah, or Muharram are not good days. Is this true? How does Islam view this?
According to agreed about rulings in Islam all days are good and there is no such thing as a bad day to get married, except when one intends to marry while in a state of Ihram (for Umrah or Hajj) or if a woman is still in the waiting period/iddah after leaving a husband by divorce or when her husband has died. Keep in mind that the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) married Aishah (RA) during Shawwal as it is mentioned in a hadith. Imam Nawawi , in his explanation of Sahih Muslim states the Hadith of Aishah (RA) who said:
“Allah’s Messenger (SAW) contracted marriage with me in Shawwal and took me to his house as a bride during Shawwal.” Imam Nawawi said: “Aishah (RA) meant to reject the faith of pre-Islamic era.” He continued, “The belief of some people in those days was that marrying in Shawwal and starting a marital life in this month was dislikeable and thus null and void. There is no evidence for such beliefs and they are remnants of pre-Islamic faiths.” (Shahih Muslim bi Syarh an Nawawi juz V page 131).
There is also no prohibition of marriage between the two Eids, as the prominent Muslim scholar, Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi states the following:
“The claim that marriage between the two `Eids is prohibited has no religious backing. What is known in Islam is that there is no religious reservation against marriage in all months and in all days as marriage is best welcomed in all times because it is a religious manifestation and a Prophetic Sunnah. He who gets married has really completed half of his religion and warded himself against temptation.”
The belief of counting the days to getting married according to a date, day, year of birth, or the belief that being married in Shawwal will end in divorce is shirk that is prohibited by Allah (SWT) because it is attributing fate to something other than Allah (SWT).
Imam Ahmad narrated from Abdullah bin Mas’ud and said that the Prophet (SAW):
“Thiyarah (the fate of) is shirk and not from us except when Allah eliminates it with resignation (tawakkal).“
Imam Ahmad narrated from Abdullah bin ‘Amr, and said that the Prophet (SAW) said:
“He who does not continue an activity because of thiyarah (superstition, thought unlucky to see a bird or anything else) then indeed he has done shirk.” The friend asked, “Then what can abolish it O Messenger of Allah?” He replied: “Let him pray:
Allahumma laa khairo illa khairuka walaa thoiro illa thoiruka walaa ilaaha ghoiruka
(O Allah, there is no good except the good that comes from You, and there is no luck except good luck that comes from You, and there is no God except You.”
Therefore, rely upon Allah (SWT) and ask Allah (SWT) to grant that your wedding be done with the intention of building a family sakinah mawaddah warohmah.