A child is born in this world free of sin. Parents or those who nurture him/her would make him/her
good, obedient, discipline, smart, confident, independent, etc. Those are possible explanations that we frequently heard, read, or studied. But will it is only being a theory?
Yesterday I attended in a one-day seminar on parenting carried out by a Muslimah forum in Jeddah. The speaker
is an Indonesian child education expert who initially came for Umra.
He said that many subjects that are implemented in schools, are not necessarily useful to the children in the future. Number of lessons sometimes is up to two digits! Just make the children suffer without knowing their benefits. How many lessons that we received in our childhood are useful in our work? 75%? 50%? Or less?
People generally judge children with less score in their academic report as less intelligent children. After I married and have three children aged 13, 9, and 3 years I realize that character, strength, and weakness of each child is different. Though they were born with the same father and mother, eat the same foods, get the same attention! But why should the result is different? One of my children is easier to learn foreign language, my other children are not. One of my children is easily taught how to count, others are not. Subhanallah .. Allah SWT entrusts to us this mandate. It is like a blank diary that has been sent to us and we have to fill it with beautiful writings and stories, before it will be closed out because no page left!
I got affected when the speaker told us to look at our children’s pictures, saw their eyes, their cheeks, their noses … Masha Allah how Allah gives us the best gifts!….
The question is “Do we spend the best time for them anyway?”
Many teenagers who fall into drug addiction, pregnancy out of wedlock, stealing, robbing, raping … Who’s to be blamed? Environment? What environment?…….. Is it the Family? Because most of the time they spend is with their family.
If we want to calculate roughly, 7 hours are spent in school, plus 2 hours for those who have after school activities. There are still 15 more hours per day with us at home. When they sleep 8 hours each night means 7 hours opportunity remaining with the family. O parents….., 7 hours a day is an opportunity given to us as parents. Until how many years? If we count up to 24 years of age after which they will be picked up by her husband or find her/his spouse … It means that how many hours of our opportunities with our children? Assume, first 4 years of children’s life 13 hours is with us at home (less sleeping time 11 hours per day). Means the pre-school age (4 year x 365 day x13 hour) plus school age (20 year x 365 day x 7 hour) = 18,980 hour + 51,100 hours = 70,080 hours OR (70,080 hour/24 hour)= 2920 days OR 2920 day/ 365 day = 8 years or less!
Argh……. off course this calculation is not scientific…….it is only based on my own experience……
But the message is…… our time with the kids passes SO QUICKLY! Try to count based on your own version, how many more years you could be with them … you might be surprised just like me …
So, do not waste your time .. If you agree that your children is a blessing from Allah…spend your time more with your children from now on!
